THE DANGERS OF CRITICISM

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By Ibidunni Thaabitah 

Happiness, self fulfillment, impactfulness, and contentment are all desired by humans, but only few people are ready to pay the price.

Everyone wants to be heard but not everyone wants to speak in a language that is generally acceptable. Everyone wants to be seen but not everybody is willing to make sacrifices.

To live a satisfying and impactful life, it is crucial to know the secret in achieving that.

For that reason, every individual should pay attention to the devastating effects of criticism and fault finding on both the victim and the fault finder.

To start with, criticism has adverse effects on the victim in the sense that it lowers self esteem and self confidence.

It is possible for a critic not to be aware of the negative effects of nagging on affected persons because of lack of empathy. However, it is dangerous to stay with a naysayer who is always after one’s wrongdoing.

A child who grew up with criticism and complaints will lose self confidence and self esteem. Such child would believe there is nothing he could do right; therefore, afraid to challenge his or her intelligence.

As a result of this, he continues to behave the same way and finds it difficult to suppress the negative trait in him or her and uphold a better way of life.

In addition to that, someone who grew up in an environment full of condemnation and criticism may become a fussy person and as such, get angry at every little thing. As the saying goes;

Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.

Mark Twain

Anger causes nothing but destruction of peace and tranquility in any environment, likewise, in the life of the one who is possessed by anger. No one would be willing to stay close to a fussy person.

These and lots more are what criticism can cause.

From another perspective, being a fault finder can, actually,  make one become selfish. Selfish people always think about themselves and no one else. Thus, they do not see any reason to put themselves in other people’s shoes.

Also, living a life of a critic draws people away from one’s life thereby leading to living a lonely life. It is undeniable that nobody will be willing to stay close to a critic because it is believed that the environment plays a major role in shaping people’s minds.

One who always stays in the midst of fault finders will later become one of them; consequently, living a lonely life because not even a single person wants to become a friend with such person. People won’t have much time for whoever chooses complaining as a hobby. This, indeed, is a great danger of the influence of a critic.

Finally, a complainer would be static in self growth and development. This is so because he or she is only interested in other people’s faults and shortcomings, paying less or no attention to their own.

All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, it will not change you.

Wayne Dyer

Complaining about the mistakes of others will not automatically erase your own, instead it makes you static in self development.

Self development is key in ensuring success in life , but it can not be achieved without conscious effort. Rather than focusing on other people’s shortcomings, work on yourself first?

That being said, what about armchair critics who criticize based on hearsay rather than practical experience?

A better way to correct others is to find remedies or solutions to a problem and also understand that human beings see things from different angles and no one is perfect.

Living the life of a critic affects the one who criticizes, negatively, and the one who is being criticized. It makes one static in self improvement and leads to living a solitary life. It is then encouraged to desist from such a demeaning act and focus more on productive activities. Shun criticism and be among the most effective people on Earth.  

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